I am in my mid 20’s. Okayyy, what I really mean to say is that I am approaching the big THREE ZERO (30). And because I am almost 30, there comes an added pressure to have achieved a certain level of success.
It’s hard enough to accept the fact that I will never be 20 again, but now there is this whole new thing where young people like me think, that if they have not got a successful career/business/descent hustle going on, then they have failed in some way.
But why? Why do millennial have this misconceived mindset? Why do we owe ourselves so much?
I have spent the last few weeks pondering and thinking about this issue. And honestly, I could not really answer this questions with one definite answer.
I guess there are a whole lot of factors affecting our way of thinking. Our upbringing is one of them, at least for me it is.
There was always a pressure to be well educated in my family. I can not say I was the academic type. But I managed to do an okay job, and I finished with BA in Hotel Management.
If given more time to decide what I wanted to do and if there wasn’t so much rush to figure my whole life out, I reckon I would have studied a completely different subject. Actually, I am absolutely sure of it. If like me you are in your twenties and feel a bit lost you might like to read an anecdote of the lessons I learnt in my 20’s.
And no, I am not blaming anyone, and I am so grateful for how far I’ve come. But at the same time, I like to learn a few lessons from the past, in hope to avoid making similar mistakes in the future.
Another factor which might be causing the rush in our generation is the media. Everything says you should be like this, you need to have this, you have to have that. No wonder we are a ‘want it all’ generation. We are never satisfied with our income and our jobs. We are endlessly chasing stuff, status, recognition and success.
One man’s treasure, does not have to be yours, but we don’t always understand the notion and here we are displeased with our lives because we are desiring someone else’s life. And I am pretty much over this whole thing.
I guess from the age of 22, I decisively ripped out the chapter of my life that said that my life has got to be like Mr so and so. This is one of the most freeing decisions I made. I gave myself permission to be me again.
I quickly got tired of rushing through life, like something is about to run out (something has to give). I am tired of blogging about what is popular or on the scene. I am done with feeling like I can only write about something when it’s in demand. Who makes all these rules?
I just want to live life to the best of my ability. I don’t aspire to impress or to oppress. Don’t get me wrong because I don’t want to sound condescending, but I just figured out that competing against the algorithms of life is an endless, exhausting and enormous battle I probably cannot win.
However, what I can do, is to be who I am. What I can do, is to do what I can. What I hope for is to give of what I have and not hoping and dreaming that one day I finally will have enough to give. Let’s start where we are and build on what we have.
To anyone who feels like they are not good enough yet, to make a change in the world – think again! You are good enough today, you don’t necessarily need to rush every aspect of life. Some things happen progressively over a period of time.
Growth is not a miracle and it’s not an overnight process. Instead of seeking shortcuts, take time and identify the right way to go about things. Growing organically is always better than to grow with fertilizers. Of course, there are things you can do to organically accelerate your growth but it should not be at the detriment of your peace, your joy and most importantly not at the detriment of your vision.
It’s like when you keep fast-forwarding a clip, you tend to miss the good bits, you miss the core, you miss the goodies. Drop down the remote and enjoy the course of things.
I always say this to myself: – I will enjoy the journey of life and run my race diligently.
Also, consider the following excerpt from the book of Ecclesiastes:
“I saw something else under the sun. The race isn’t [won] by fast runners, or the battle by heroes. Wise people don’t necessarily have food. Intelligent people don’t necessarily have riches, and skilled people don’t necessarily receive special treatment. But time and unpredictable events overtake all of them.” (Ecclesiastes 9:11)
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